​Do you really think
more thinking is
needed right now?

Especially when what
we're dealing with is a
sickness of the mind!

With sad eyes
the soul whispers
“Stop” (as it always has)

Did Saint Paul not say 
the same to the good folks
of Galatia?

With a humble heart
(admitting the -ism
existing in yourself)
sit in Silence

Without mistaking such
Silence for absence
or worse, indifference!

The soul knows
how to wait
for salvation from
its Source.

And do you remember
Jesus speaking to his disciples--
What does it take for some
demonic powers to leave?

Prayer and fasting.
So ask,
then close your lips and listen.

Until clenched fists open
until anxiety and anger
slip through your fingers

Until you receive
in your now-ready head,
heart, and hands
​
that which you are to give
for the healing of this,
your world.

More than I thought.

In 2009 I had emergency back surgery for a ruptured disc that caused the worst nerve pain I have ever felt...paralyzing lightning down my leg and out my right toes leaving me screaming.
   
After the surgery, I'd hoped the muscle pain and sciatica I had experienced on and off since high school would finally be gone...it wasn't.  I did physical therapy (having already done chiropractic).  Again I was hopeful...it didn't help.  

Whenever the pain would hit, I'd chalk it up to accidentally bending or twisting and tweaking an old basketball injury.  It would have me either in bed or on the floor with my feet up on the couch for days.  I thought my active life of hiking and carrying stuff (like my own little girl) was over.  I (& those around me) started treating my back gingerly, making sure I did not lift or do anything that could trigger that familiar shooting pain.  You can imagine what I looked like whenever I walked and sat down or did anything that included my back (amazing how much does!).    

One night at a breathwork class, after observing me, the instructor told me to read John Sarno's The Mindbody Prescription, saying it would help. I thought this was laughable.  I'd undergone the knife and physical therapy, how could a book help?  Undeterred she told me how it had helped a friend with my kind of pain. At the end of our time she said, "You're so young, I just don't want you to be in pain the rest of your life."  What did I have to lose?  I read it.  
I haven't been on the floor or in bed due to back pain since.  Seriously.  That was 8 years ago!

Over the past eight years, beginning with that book, I've learned three things: 

My physical self is interconnected with all other parts of myself. How I am spiritually affects how I am emotionally which affects how I am physically and all can affect how I am relationally.  What's happening relationally can affect how I am mentally and emotionally and physically and so on.  If we choose to dissect and isolate any of these when we have dis-ease or pain in any given area, we miss ways of healing that come when we consider the whole of us.   

A lifetime of being a "good girl" coupled with perfectionism affected my body.  It led to the suppression of anger and other unwanted feelings which finally erupted in physical pain.  My unconscious thought physical pain a better choice than emotional pain.  Locating an old area of injury and a socially acceptable place of pain (back pain is what ulcers used to be!), that's what it chose.  It's interesting the games our minds can play (thinking that they're helping us)! 
 
Seeing God as a Divine Task-Master perpetuated my good girl-perfectionist cycle.  Since we become like the God we adore (as I mentioned in last week's post), my inner critics had no problem replicating this God-like perpetual drivenness to accomplish and improve.  Be better.  Try harder.  Be (or at least act) perfect.  And it's no surprise that snippets of Scripture would often run through my mind to back up these "commands"!  Anytime I fell short, which of course I did since I'm human, I took the feelings of anger and shame and stuffed them. Eventually my body would no longer "play these reindeer games" (it began warning me in junior high but it took me a long time before I would or knew how to listen!).    

Now my body is my friend.  I view it as part of the whole.  It tells me the truth.  When I feel nerve pain begin in my toe, I know that if I don't tend to what feelings are running under the surface, it will soon start in my back.  My God-created body has invited me to not only reflect on my God-created emotions but even my image of God.  As my image of God has undergone healing and transformation, guess what?  It's affected my mind, emotions, relationships, and yes, my body.  Thank God for that gift of back pain.  

Ever find yourself angry when someone did not do what they were "supposed" to do or be who they were "supposed" to be?

Whether it's a relationship with one person, your whole family or even your church family, there's bound to come trouble and disappointment.

I was recently asked how I had discovered peace given my own disappointments and struggles.  I was encouraged because this meant the person sensed peace in me where they had not before!  The truth is, peace began to fill me when I started practicing letting go of the way I had pictured things.  When I loosened my grip on demanding things and people to be how I wanted them to be, I was in  for a surprise!

Guess what happened?  Scales fell from my eyes and I began to see how God was providing for me in ways I simply could not see when I was demanding how, when, and who.  When I shifted from feeling angry and filled with bitter disappointment when "how, when and who" did not come through it was like the moment in Genesis 28:16 when Jacob exclaims, "“You were here all the time, and I never knew it!" 

We all have idealistic pictures as to how our life and relationships should look.  
This comes as no surprise, our culture schools us in desire and what it should look like so we pursue and learn to create illusion. This is especially true during holidays or important life events and stages.  We have expectations.  We long for the perfect experience or outcome. 

Actually, the core desire in the idealism is usually good.  At the core I find the longing to give and receive love in all its forms from belonging to delighting.  It's what we do with the desire as to whether or not it leads to life (and peace).  As I observe my own life and the lives of others, here are some places we can go with desire so it remains life-giving:

We can lament.
The process of letting go of what we desired and pictured is difficult.  God knows this, it's one reason why there are laments in the Psalms.  In a perfect world, our relationships and society would not be so filled with wounded people wounding people (including ourselves). When we do not have the deep relationship we wish we had with a person or the co-workers we pictured, the church we desired or the family gatherings we had hoped for, we can allow ourselves to name, express and feel the loss.  

We can let go.
From small, daily letting go to larger, deeper letting go, the smaller ones prepare us for the larger.  For example, take Psalm 27:10, "Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close."  Who exclaims such a thing?  Someone who has experienced God's steadfast love in the small betrayals and so trusts God in the big ones.  This person recognizes that when others cannot provide, God can.  Can you relate to others being unwilling or unable to come through? Just like the Psalmist, we can begin to release our stranglehold, our white-knuckled clutch, on whoever or whatever is not giving us what we want, need or pictured.  We can transfer the people, situations and ourselves into the hands of God.  

We can be on the lookout.
Perhaps one reason the text in Luke 17:21 can be translated either the Kingdom is "within or among you" is because both are true!  When I let go of demanding a particular person or group meet my need then I am freed up to see how God is providing everything I need.  It could arise within me or come through other people or parts of the created world I did not expect.  Recognizing the ways the Spirit of Love is speaking from within ourselves takes practice. Yet sometimes when life is particularly overwhelming, no matter how strong our spiritual life, we are unable to access the Kingdom of God within us.  This is when the Body of Christ (when functioning as intended) can step in and offer the steadfast, creative love of God.  

May we allow lament and letting go of the way we pictured things to clear our eyes and create space that we may see and receive the Kingdom of God.
    

• What idealistic "pictures" are you hanging onto today? 
• How tightly are you holding on?  Let your hands reflect it (i.e. clenched fists).
• Will you allow yourself to slowly open your hands and let go of how you pictured things?

​Who told anger
“You are not welcome here”

And banished her
to lonely places
And left him
to sit by the road?

​It was never the One
who stands at the door and knocks
Or in lonely places prays
Or who blinds some and gives sight to others
that their roads may lead
to Life.

By "it" I'm referring to anger.

It's important.  Even necessary.

Our anger need not be squelched or swallowed, repressed or suppressed...but it need not lead either (or down a destructive path we'll go, harming ourselves and others!). This is what the Psalmist and Paul admonish in Psalm 4:4 and Ephesians 4:26, when they say "Be angry but do not sin." 

In the book, Healing Spiritual Abuse and Religious Addiction, I ran across this quote by William Sloane Coffin, Jr. and it stopped me in my tracks:
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Jesus was angry over 50% of the time, and it's very dangerous theology to try to improve on Jesus.  The anger needs to be focused, but anger is what maintains your sanity.  Anger keeps you from tolerating the intolerable.

Isn't that good news?  Anger itself isn't a sin.  In fact, it can even be Christ-like.  So let's not set our anger aside too quickly (lest resentment builds and the volcano explodes).  If we're willing to listen, anger has gifts it's willing to give. Two I've experienced and seen offered to those I work with in spiritual direction are energy and creativity.  

A youth pastor sat slumped in his chair as he told me he had been lethargic and uninspired all week even though his ministry and students had experienced a traumatic betrayal by a respected church leader the week before.  I thought his lethargy may be a protective measure shielding him from the force of his anger (which to him didn't feel too Christ-like, but Christ's life shows otherwise).  So I asked him how he felt about the man and what he had done to the students in his community and he nearly leapt from his chair with rage!  Gone was his lethargy of just a few minutes ago!  And onto exploring deeply healing and creative ways of caring for himself and his students (and the energy to carry it out). 
 
Feeling lethargic, burned-out or stagnant lately?  Have you been afraid to be angry or express anger?  Or is anger leading you down a destructive path, harmful to yourself and others?  If so, it's time for a little reflection on anger.  Read on.

Acknowledge your anger.  Get to know it and its relationship with you.

• Where/how do you feel or experience anger in your body?  
• If you could describe it as an image, what does it "look" like?

Listen to what anger is trying to say.  What is its message?  Some examples may be...

• "Something's gotta change."
• "This isn't right."
• "I can't take it anymore."

Ask anger a few clarifying questions.  Anger has some wisdom you could use, so be curious and ask.  

• "What is the 'thing' that's gotta change?"
• "What is the 'this' that isn't right?"
• "What is the 'it' you can't take?"

A few more questions for anger to consider...

• How would it like to carry out its wrath?  (Be as honest and creative as possible. What does your body want to do?  Stomp?  Punch a pillow?  Remember, you're letting anger have a voice, not letting it carry out the fantasy in real life!  The Old Testament prophets let us know that God often expressed such rage-filled feelings to and through them.)
• What is anger's greatest fear?  Its greatest hope?
• What does anger want or need from you &/or God?

Reflect on what you've learned.  What have you discovered about your  present anger and its message?  
I've found that once I've listened to my anger it becomes a wise adviser rather than a compulsive and destructive leader.  Rather than taking its wrath out on me or others, it's much more willing to tone down or step aside.  In fact, I find it's willing to... 

• create room for another emotion/part to be listened to (most likely the one that can be discovered by finishing this sentence, "If I wasn't feeling angry, I would be feeling...").
• pass along its energy to other parts of me (and life) in need.
• give its discernment to and let the calmer, creative "Truer Self" do the leading!  

Now that feels like sanity.  And hopeful possibility...

May you continue to join Jesus on the way of life with and through your anger!

As division and divisive language continue to escalate, I think if Jesus were to choose one of his parables for us, he would share the story of The Good Samaritan and simply change the language.  

You may recall this parable found in Luke 10:25-37.  A man is attacked by thieves, left to die and those of his own group pass him by (even crossing over to the other side of the street rather than helping him).  But the one who stops, bandages his wounds, takes him to a place where he can be cared for and pays for his care is none other than the enemy!  
​
Hearing Dr. Amy-Jill Levine's words around this parable opened my eyes to be on the lookout for help coming from the "enemy camp."  I found examples not only in the New Testament, but the Old Testament as well. Where did help come from for infant Moses pulled from the Nile?  From the very palace of the murderous king who issued the order that all male Israelite babies be thrown into the river!  The rescuing of Moses and the parable of The Good Samaritan remind me that people of compassion are everywhere (as are people of violence and indifference).  They are found in every religion, in every political camp.  It does no earthly good to continue to demonize those who are not like us.  It's a waste of valuable time to continue to ruminate on how terrible those Republicans or Democrats are (or any group we are tempted to label and disdain). And it's certainly a waste of energy to share divisive Facebook posts or tweets!

Instead, pause from posting about your enemy and join me for a moment to enter into this take on Jesus' parable. Read and then close your eyes, allowing yourself to take in the scene with all of your senses (which is to meditate on the passage):

• You're out for a walk when you're attacked and left for dead along the side of a familiar road.  Allow yourself to really enter the scene.  Feel your physical pain and powerlessness.
• Through your swollen eyes, you see a leader from your group walking toward you. Notice how you feel. With one glance at you, the leader crosses to the other side of the street and quickly walks away.
• You hear footsteps, even a pleasant whistle, you know that whistle, it's a song your group loves. However, it stops abruptly and you catch the figure hustling over to the other side of the street and quickly away.  Notice what feelings are stirred in you.  What are you thinking?  How is your body?
• A figure bends over you now.  Although you can hardly open your eyes, through your squinting, you can make out the logo on this person's t-shirt (or their style of clothing).  You cannot believe it, it's from your enemy group!  What are you thinking as this person is bending over you??  
• Much to your surprise rather than finish you off, this person wipes your face with a cool cloth and begins to bandage your wounds.  You are then placed in their car and taken to the nearest clinic where you overhear the person say they will pay for the entire bill!  What's your response?  Who in this scene in your life was most "on your side"?  How will you allow this to change you? 

Jesus' parables confused, confounded and disturbed its listeners. On purpose. For those courageous or curious enough to enter into them (to meditate or chew on them) they offered salvation.  

Whether a change of heart, a transformed mind, more freedom, mercy or love...whatever it is you're seeking today...what if Moses' own salvation and the parable are right?  What if what you're looking for may just come from the enemy camp?!?